Craigslist

After my divorce, I went through the process of trying to meet someone else. I wasn't looking for a serious long term relationship. I just wanted to meet someone, and hopefully date them without many strings, drama, issues or expectations. Just two adults getting together to have fun. Naturally, I turned to Craigslist to see if I could find someone to meet my needs.

First let's start off with numbers. Then I'll go into my experience using CL.

• I sent out 175+ e-mails
• I received ~50 actual e-mail responses
• I created 11 posts on CL
• I received 112 direct spam e-mails (actually quoting my response or post)
• I received 100+ general spam e-mails

My Posts
As I said, I posted 11 different times on CL. Usually in m4w, sometimes in casual encounters. These posts ranged on a number of subjects, from something fun like "Let's explore the city like a tourist", to something to entice them "Help me go shopping!" to something simple like "Let's see X movie", to something totally random like "Let's participate in No Pants Day", to straightforward posts looking for a FWB or NSA relationship. Typically, my posts simply resulted in receiving a number of direct spam e-mails. It would be extremely rare for me to actually get a human response to my post.

My Responses
Like I mentioned, I sent out a lot of e-mails. Typically they were all custom written (no form e-mails), referencing something they had mentioned in their ad, and including a question to elicit a response. To be honest, this was all quite time and energy intensive. I've responded to w4m posts, casual encounter posts, random posts yelling "Why did I get flagged?!?!?", to a request for people to model for pictures while holding a book.

Actual Human Responses
I received about 50 actual responses from real people. The majority included a single response from them, followed by a response from me, and then complete silence. Other times, we'd actually trade a few e-mails and then I'd be informed that I was not what they were looking for. This was typically due to either my age, or due to my status as a divorcee. I did have a nice penpal who I traded a number of e-mails with, but never actually desired to meet me.

Spam
I am so incredibly glad that I had the foresight to create a new e-mail address to use for my activities on Craigslist. As I mentioned, I received a ton of spam from posting on CL, or responding to CL posts. It's interesting to actually see the direct spam, as they had actually quoted my original e-mail and tried to entice me to sign up for a website, give my credit card or something else. I also ended up on a number of general spam lists, getting random e-mails again trying to get me to visit a website, sign up, and/or give my credit card. One funny thing out of all of this, is that I still get "responses" from a post which I had made a few years ago now. Apparently, someone had added me to some mailing list, which still sends out these fake responses.

Out of all my time, energy and effort on Craigslist, I only met 2 people. One ended up being a dinner date with an older SSBBW, followed by going back to my place where I gave her so many orgasms that she was babbling by the time I stopped, and my bed was a wet mess of sheets. The other one ended up being my sugar baby for a couple of months which ended my stint on CL.